A couple weeks ago I read Andina’s blog post about her life 5 years ago, and I could not help but thinking of myself after I read her interesting post. Hmm.. 5 years ago.
So, in 2011 I was about to turn 25 years old. I just returned from England at the end of 2010 after finishing my graduate school (P.S read my stories here), and just started a new job.
Despite the job and my new experience, I hated being home. I thought that returning home was a mistake and I should have stayed in the UK. I missed my own graduation and I missed my life in the UK. Plus, Jakarta was too chaotic, everything was different even though I left only for a year.
And something else happened as well. I had a bad break up with my then boyfriend. Well, well, well. What a year, right? I was confused at that time. I thought everything was set up nicely for me after I came back from my graduate school. I was wrong. In fact everything seemed to be in a mess.
Back then, my good friends had started to get married. Weddings after weddings happened, then babies would follow. Almost everybody I am close with were in a serious relationship, if not married already. Again I was confused. What to do? I felt lost because I thought I had it all planned but it was shattered in front of my eyes. Really, the first half of 2011 seemed like a dark age for me.
Lucky I made some new friends at the office.
To my surprise, the second half of the year turned out to be not bad at all!
I decided travel solo to Singapore for a weekend break. Then I decided to go on dates! Haha š This is funny, because I always think that I am a serial-commiter. Meaning, I was always in a committed relationship and rarely go on random dates. But during that period of time, I almost said yes to every opportunity.
Tinder was not around back then, so I had to rely on my friends to introduce me to their friends. That way I felt “safer” because I sort of have a background check of the guy I was going on a date with.
So I went on dates. Nothing serious, just casual dates over coffee or going to the cinema. Very much old-school ;). It was a fun experience to be honest. I got to meet people and learned how to engage in a conversation with a “stranger”. Mind you, my previous boyfriends all came from a similar environment to me.. mostly my school friends. Another thing that I think was interesting is the fact that I challenged myself to attend a speed dating event! hahahaha it was funny. I might write a separate post about this š
Long story short, those dates led me to nothing. There was only 1 guy who made it to 3rd date, but still we were not “feeling it”. I became a bit frustrated. How hard was it to find the one in this cold, cold world?! Am I set to be alone for the rest of my life? I thought.
Then there was this random afternoon, when suddenly a friend of mine messaged me out of the blue, just to catch up. After talking randomly, came another random question. He asked me “you’re single, are you? what if I introduce you to a friend of mine?”. In which I agreed.
Little did I know at that time, some time in August 2011, that friend will become one of the most important person in my life, in which I am willing to go through the distance ā¤
Yes, 5 years ago I was introduced to R for the first time. 3 years ago we met for the first time, and this year we are taking the first step to close off our distance. Wish us luck! š
P.S thank you Andina for the post idea š
Christa Bercerita 
Awwww what a sweet post! A lot can happen in 5 years huh! I wish many happiness for you Christa š
Yesss a lot can happen in 5 years hehehe. Thank youu Aggy and I wish the same for you š
Hahaha, what a year 2011 was for you!!! š
What a year, righttt hehehehe, how was it for you Ko?
So this is the story how you met him. Cute Christa! And I wish you both good luck, LDR warriors š
Thank youu š i do hope it will turn out beautiful š
Aww this is so cute Christa! Emang jodoh nggak ke mana ya! Biasanya emang kalo nyari susah ketemu, giliran lagi gak cari — datang š
Jadi inget memory, hahaha. 2011 was a big year for me — I moved to New Zealand, finally broke it up with the on and off again after graduation ex, met and dated someone I dubbed douchebag now LOL, learnt how to cook properly, fell in love with NZ, gained 10 kg of weight and learnt I had PCOS (health condition).
Iyaa deh random bgt itupun abis dikenalin biasa aja.. Sempet nge date2 asal lagi.. Siapa sangka pas akhirnya ketemu 2 tahun kemudian ehhh nyangkut hahahaha :))))))
Wuihh 2011 kamu juga bermakna yaaah Mar š berarti di NZ udh 5 taun ya, time flies š
Baca tulisan kakak jadi segeerrr. Aku nyaris 23, baru putus, liat temen-temen dah mulai nikah. Agak panik. Tapi yaudah sih, aku pecaya bakal nemu sosok yg tepat kayak yg kakak alamin. Thanks for sharing kak š
Sama sama š hehehe jangan panik yah, the right person will come along! Sabar aja š
I totally understand what you felt after you got back to Indonesia. Glad things are better now š
Hopefully things are now better for you too Dixie! x
Ohh sweet story. Iya sih I f I were you mungkin aku juga ga rela balik ke jkt yg hectic ini hihihi. I wish u the best with your beloved one ya chi
5 years ago aku lagi sibuk urus bayi aka kakak G yg baru usia 9 bulan…
Thank youu Joeyyyzz hehehe.. amiinn š
Ahh kakak G berarti udah mau 6 tahun dong yaa? gak berasa udah gedee… hehehe
Goodluck for the future Christa! š looking back, eventually all things fell into place yaa š
Indeed they do š Thank you Phii!
Wah, so sweet! What a year yah kak. Good luck to youuu..
Thank youuu Wien š
You’re welcome š
Hmmm 5 tahun lalu aku lagi heboh mulai ngantor setelah puas jadi ibu rumah tangga ngendon di rumah haha.
Anw, you’re so young! means you are 30 this year, huh?
Hehehe yepp turning 30 this year š
Amen…I wish you n R good luck for your future plan š
Thank youu Inong š
Indeed, 2010 ended badly and 2011 started out shakily, same here. I went out for a couple of disastrous dates too, which I felt like going home and watch endless DVDs instead š But a lot of things happened throughout 2011, one of the best was I moved to New York. So bye bye lousy Jakarta dates, and welcome to New Yorkers dating! We have speed dating, ok cupid, tinder, hinge, happen and my fave: endless rows of bars š
Woohoow New York dating sounds very exciting! š Btw aku jadi kebayang seriesnya Aziz Ansari yg Master of None hehehe
This is a beautiful, simple post. I came here after reading BoxOfPages Five years blog. I’m glad you found love! It is always when you least expect it, isn’t it. I think I will do my own five year look back too
Thank you for stopping by and reading the post š Can’t wait to read your story! x
It will be coming soon!
Hi Christa,
Thanks for sharing. I was also born in Indo but spend most of my life outside of Indo. Every time I am back in Indo, I felt relaxed but always think I will not be able to live in Indo .
So glad that things turned out well for you.
Hi Jessica š Thanks for your comment, I’ve also followed your blog and can’t wait to read more of your stories š
Thanks Christa. Congrats on the proposal! Happy planning for your wedding. =)
Thank you! ā¤