5 Years Ago

A couple weeks ago I read Andina’s blog post  about her life 5 years ago, and I could not help but thinking of myself after I read her interesting post. Hmm.. 5 years ago.

So, in 2011 I was about to turn 25 years old. I just returned from England at the end of 2010 after finishing my graduate school (P.S read my stories here), and just started a new job.

Despite the job and my new experience, I hated being home. I thought that returning home was a mistake and I should have stayed in the UK. I missed my own graduation and I missed my life in the UK. Plus, Jakarta was too chaotic, everything was different even though I left only for a year.

And something else happened as well. I had a bad break up with my then boyfriend. Well, well, well. What a year, right? I was confused at that time. I thought everything was set up nicely for me after I came back from my graduate school. I was wrong. In fact everything seemed to be in a mess.

Back then, my good friends had started to get married. Weddings after weddings happened, then babies would follow. Almost everybody I am close with were in a serious relationship, if not married already. Again I was confused. What to do? I felt lost because I thought I had it all planned but it was shattered in front of my eyes. Really, the first half of 2011 seemed like a dark age for me.

Lucky I made some new friends at the office.

My GTP friends :)
My GTP friends šŸ™‚
I joined the company through a graduate trainee program along with a bunch of super cool kids around my age. Together we made one big happy group and there are several few I am lucky to call my best friends until now :’)

To my surprise, the second half of the year turned out to be not bad at all!

I decided travel solo to Singapore for a weekend break. Then I decided to go on dates! Haha šŸ™‚ This is funny, because I always think that I am a serial-commiter. Meaning, I was always in a committed relationship and rarely go on random dates. But during that period of time, I almost said yes to every opportunity.

Tinder was not around back then, so I had to rely on my friends to introduce me to their friends. That way I felt “safer” because I sort of have a background check of the guy I was going on a date with.

So I went on dates. Nothing serious, just casual dates over coffee or going to the cinema. Very much old-school ;). It was a fun experience to be honest. I got to meet people and learned how to engage in a conversation with a “stranger”. Mind you, my previous boyfriends all came from a similar environment to me.. mostly my school friends. Another thing that I think was interesting is the fact that I challenged myself to attend a speed dating event! hahahaha it was funny. I might write a separate post about this šŸ˜‰

Long story short, those dates led me to nothing. There was only 1 guy who made it to 3rd date, but still we were not “feeling it”. I became a bit frustrated. How hard was it to find the one in this cold, cold world?! Am I set to be alone for the rest of my life? I thought.

Then there was this random afternoon, when suddenly a friend of mine messaged me out of the blue, just to catch up. After talking randomly, came another random question. He asked me “you’re single, are you? what if I introduce you to a friend of mine?”. In which I agreed.

Little did I know at that time, some time in August 2011, that friend will become one of the most important person in my life, in which I am willing to go through the distance ā¤

Yes, 5 years ago I was introduced to R for the first time. 3 years ago we met for the first time, and this year we are taking the first step to close off our distance. Wish us luck! šŸ™‚

P.S thank you Andina for the post idea šŸ™‚

32 thoughts on “5 Years Ago”

  1. Aww this is so cute Christa! Emang jodoh nggak ke mana ya! Biasanya emang kalo nyari susah ketemu, giliran lagi gak cari — datang šŸ™‚
    Jadi inget memory, hahaha. 2011 was a big year for me — I moved to New Zealand, finally broke it up with the on and off again after graduation ex, met and dated someone I dubbed douchebag now LOL, learnt how to cook properly, fell in love with NZ, gained 10 kg of weight and learnt I had PCOS (health condition).

    1. Iyaa deh random bgt itupun abis dikenalin biasa aja.. Sempet nge date2 asal lagi.. Siapa sangka pas akhirnya ketemu 2 tahun kemudian ehhh nyangkut hahahaha :))))))

      Wuihh 2011 kamu juga bermakna yaaah Mar šŸ™‚ berarti di NZ udh 5 taun ya, time flies šŸ™‚

  2. I totally understand what you felt after you got back to Indonesia. Glad things are better now šŸ™‚

  3. Ohh sweet story. Iya sih I f I were you mungkin aku juga ga rela balik ke jkt yg hectic ini hihihi. I wish u the best with your beloved one ya chi

    5 years ago aku lagi sibuk urus bayi aka kakak G yg baru usia 9 bulan…

  4. Hmmm 5 tahun lalu aku lagi heboh mulai ngantor setelah puas jadi ibu rumah tangga ngendon di rumah haha.
    Anw, you’re so young! means you are 30 this year, huh?

  5. Indeed, 2010 ended badly and 2011 started out shakily, same here. I went out for a couple of disastrous dates too, which I felt like going home and watch endless DVDs instead šŸ˜› But a lot of things happened throughout 2011, one of the best was I moved to New York. So bye bye lousy Jakarta dates, and welcome to New Yorkers dating! We have speed dating, ok cupid, tinder, hinge, happen and my fave: endless rows of bars šŸ™‚

  6. This is a beautiful, simple post. I came here after reading BoxOfPages Five years blog. I’m glad you found love! It is always when you least expect it, isn’t it. I think I will do my own five year look back too

  7. Hi Christa,

    Thanks for sharing. I was also born in Indo but spend most of my life outside of Indo. Every time I am back in Indo, I felt relaxed but always think I will not be able to live in Indo .

    So glad that things turned out well for you.

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