A couple weeks ago I read Andina’s blog post about her life 5 years ago, and I could not help but thinking of myself after I read her interesting post. Hmm.. 5 years ago.
So, in 2011 I was about to turn 25 years old. I just returned from England at the end of 2010 after finishing my graduate school (P.S read my stories here), and just started a new job.
Despite the job and my new experience, I hated being home. I thought that returning home was a mistake and I should have stayed in the UK. I missed my own graduation and I missed my life in the UK. Plus, Jakarta was too chaotic, everything was different even though I left only for a year.
And something else happened as well. I had a bad break up with my then boyfriend. Well, well, well. What a year, right? I was confused at that time. I thought everything was set up nicely for me after I came back from my graduate school. I was wrong. In fact everything seemed to be in a mess.
Back then, my good friends had started to get married. Weddings after weddings happened, then babies would follow. Almost everybody I am close with were in a serious relationship, if not married already. Again I was confused. What to do? I felt lost because I thought I had it all planned but it was shattered in front of my eyes. Really, the first half of 2011 seemed like a dark age for me.
Lucky I made some new friends at the office.
I joined the company through a graduate trainee program along with a bunch of super cool kids around my age. Together we made one big happy group and there are several few I am lucky to call my best friends until now :’)
To my surprise, the second half of the year turned out to be not bad at all!
I decided travel solo to Singapore for a weekend break. Then I decided to go on dates! Haha 🙂 This is funny, because I always think that I am a serial-commiter. Meaning, I was always in a committed relationship and rarely go on random dates. But during that period of time, I almost said yes to every opportunity.
Tinder was not around back then, so I had to rely on my friends to introduce me to their friends. That way I felt “safer” because I sort of have a background check of the guy I was going on a date with.
So I went on dates. Nothing serious, just casual dates over coffee or going to the cinema. Very much old-school ;). It was a fun experience to be honest. I got to meet people and learned how to engage in a conversation with a “stranger”. Mind you, my previous boyfriends all came from a similar environment to me.. mostly my school friends. Another thing that I think was interesting is the fact that I challenged myself to attend a speed dating event! hahahaha it was funny. I might write a separate post about this 😉
Long story short, those dates led me to nothing. There was only 1 guy who made it to 3rd date, but still we were not “feeling it”. I became a bit frustrated. How hard was it to find the one in this cold, cold world?! Am I set to be alone for the rest of my life? I thought.
Then there was this random afternoon, when suddenly a friend of mine messaged me out of the blue, just to catch up. After talking randomly, came another random question. He asked me “you’re single, are you? what if I introduce you to a friend of mine?”. In which I agreed.
Little did I know at that time, some time in August 2011, that friend will become one of the most important person in my life, in which I am willing to go through the distance ❤
Yes, 5 years ago I was introduced to R for the first time. 3 years ago we met for the first time, and this year we are taking the first step to close off our distance. Wish us luck! 🙂
P.S thank you Andina for the post idea 🙂