Without us realising, it’s been 4 months since our engagement day. In other words, It’s been 4 months since I became someone’s fiancée! Whew, how time flies.
In Indonesia, especially within Indonesian culture, it is not that common to have a long engagement period. Usually couples got formally engaged just few months, or even weeks before the wedding day. Well my case is a bit different.
We got engaged without knowing when exactly we are getting married. And that, my friends, have caused some frictions in our life.
First there’s the questions.
The one question that I’ve been asked many, many times now. “When’s the wedding?” And when I said I don’t know (yet), most common responses would be “But why wait?”, “Don’t take too long!”, or other similar responses. Basically we were being challenged because we still haven’t set a date even though we are engaged.
There’s also the pressure.
I’d like to call wedding events in Indonesia a big showbiz, especially since the rise of Instagram and the so-called influencers. Just click on one wedding/bride related IG account and you’d be quickly lost in a swarm of flowers, decorations, and dresses images. They are all pretty, I must say… but on the other hand they gave me pressure!
Of course I understand that sky’s the limit with these things… I mean if you want to follow everything from those Instagram/blog images, you have to be prepared to go all out. Now even though I am certain that I don’t want to go all out for my wedding because I want a simple and small one, still I feel pressured in a way that I’m afraid I won’t be able to get a venue, a make up artist, or even photographer for my wedding because they’ve been booked in advance by those all-out brides!
But then… there’s us.
Despite the questions and the pressure, R and I are enjoying our days as an engaged couple. I mean, we think being engaged to each other is special. It means that we have taken another step in our relationship, which is important given the fact that we are a LDR couple.
So, we are savoring each moments; moments like when my heart felt warm,seeing my engagement photos, or when I feel a bit panic when I realised that I forgot to wear my engagement ring when I go out. Ah, of course there are also moments when we argued over finalising our closing-the-distance plans. I can’t really explain in words, but turns out there’s a difference in the way you argue with your boyfriend and your fiancé! :)))))))
Anyway, that’s my current relationship update after the engagement day. We may not have a wedding date yet, but that’s okay. Even though if worst case we can’t get the venue that we want, we’ll just get married wherever! What’s most important is that little by little, our relationship is progressing and we are closer to our final goal – closing the distance and starting our new phase in life 🙂