Now that I have started to think about getting married, last weekend I went to a wedding fair in outskirts of Jakarta to browse around and find inspirations.
The fair was huge! It took place in a big hall with over 100 of vendors. They came from different categories too, ranging from venues to hand bouquets (Yes, I found one vendor which specialises on hand bouquets only!)… basically everything that you need for a wedding.
Everything was pretty, in whatever style that you could think off.
But in the case of wedding events in Indonesia, beauty does not come cheap. Everything that was labelled “bridal” in the fair was priced approximately 2-3 times higher than normal price. Take my experience in a designer’s booth for example. His price list for a night gown starts at about 10 million rupiah, but then the price for a bridal night gown starts at 30 million rupiah. When I asked him what caused the price gap, his staff told me that bridal gowns “will be made with utmost care and detail, using the best materials”. Oh.
And btw, have you read this article on Vice Indonesia? Crazy, right? One vendor said that on average, his clients spend more than US$ 70,000 on flowers alone! Who knows one event can use as many flowers (and as expensive!)…
Anyway, I have to say that I once almost fell into this insane wedding culture. To be honest, I grew up dreaming of a fairy tale wedding, the one where I would wear a ball gown and dance with my prince charming (Thanks Disney! :P). But life happened, and I realised that I don’t want that kind of fairy tale anymore. Especially since that kind of fairy tale would require me to spend a ridiculous amount of money.
But everybody’s different.
Judging by how popular this grand wedding culture in Indonesia nowadays, I guess there are still a lot of girls that want to have the perfect “insta-wedding”. And to be able to have the perfect “insta-wedding”, be prepared to plan everything waaaayyy in advance! I spoke to one vendor and casually said “February 2018” when I was asked about my wedding date – to which she replied in almost genuine shock “oh that’s cutting it close!”.
I guess it’s good to plan your big day way in advance, but what about preparing yourself to enter a marriage? In my personal opinion, that’s the thing that one really need to focus on preparing. After all, the wedding is just about one night, while the marriage is supposed to last a lifetime ❤