Wow, where did the time go? Without I even realized it, it’s already the last week of Ramadan. This Ramadan marks my first Ramadan after I got married and moved to the US. It means it’s also our first Ramadan together, R and I 🙂 I was inspired by Deny’s blog post about her Ramadan experience in The Netherlands so I decided to share my story too.
This year Ramadan falls in the early days of Summer. We started fasting mid-May, and we’re about to finish it next week. In Southern California, this means that I stop eating at about 4:30 AM, and eat again when the sun sets at about 7:50 – 8:00 PM.
Unlike in Indonesia, fasting in Ramadan is not a privilege. I was actually struggling to find the right word, I had to think for a bit. But I think ‘privilege’ is a suitable word. In Indonesia, the whole country anticipated Ramadan. The government and the society altogether make adjustments to make it easier for Muslims to fast and pray during the month. For example, The government announced a special working hour just for Ramadan month only for all government offices. Of course, a lot of private companies are following this arrangement. Then there’s also the long holiday. I heard that this year the government set 10 working days as a public holiday! How come they didn’t do it when I was still working… jealous now 😛 Oh, and don’t get me started on the society. Restaurants are closed during the day, even if they’re open, they would have blinds or shades to cover any activities of people eating from the eyes of a passer-by. Now that I’m here, I can’t help but think, how privileged I was as a fasting Muslim in Indonesia?
Here in the US, everything is business as usual. Obviously, restaurants are not closed during the day, perhaps maybe the ones operated by Muslims? I’m not sure, but maybe not, because my favorite Indonesian restaurant which I know is Muslim-owned still keeps its normal hours.
There’s no public holiday in the US to celebrate Ramadan or even Eid day. Because this year Eid will fall on a Friday, R had to ask for a leave from his office so that we can pray and spend the day with family. We were anxious that his company will grant him his leave, because he kind of applied last minute (we forgot about that!), but thank God it got approved.
As for being a housewife during Ramadan.. well I have to say that I’m so lucky that R and I shared the same preferences. Instead of having a full meal during suhoor, we prefer to have a breakfast-like meal, which is mostly cereal / oatmeal / toast, a lot of water / smoothies, and some vitamins. That seriously helped me a lot as it doesn’t take a long time to prepare.
I’m also blessed that the weather was nice during the past three weeks, it was rather cloudy with some chilly breeze, so although it’s my first time fasting for more than 12 hours, I didn’t feel a burden at all. We also managed to have daily walks around the neighborhood before sunset and I feel like it keeps me refreshed while waiting for the time to break our fast.
Since we have family and friends here, we still managed to have a couple of gatherings together to break the fast. Although seriously, I miss how we did these gatherings in Indonesia! Back then, gatherings to break the fast, or iftaar, were so festive! Food was abundant, people were merry, and it’s a good time to reconnect with old friends and families you rarely meet. You can really feel that you’re a part of the Muslim community back then, because, well, it seemed like most of people in your surroundings are too!
Here in the US, I am yet to connect with the community. Although we go to the mosque, but it still feels different. But I don’t mind. For me, this Ramadan was about R and I as a family. I enjoy the times we spent connecting with each other and praying together, and I look forward to many more years of Ramadan together, with God’s willing.
Anyway, Ramadan Mubarak to everyone! May we all be blessed to meet many more Ramadans in our lifetime… and to everyone else, have a good summer! 🙂
26 thoughts on “My First Ramadan in The US”
Restoran mau buka pas ramadhan sih saya gak masalah ya
Asal cuacanya kayak di us gitu seperti yang digambarkan
Adem gitu mungkin jadi gak berasa lapar ya
Iyaa kemarin adem2… tapi sekarang udah mulai musim panasnya beneran nih, puanas banget jadinya.. tapi gak apa, inshaAllah kuat! 😀
Selamat menjalankan ibadah puasa Christa.
May God bless you
Terima kasih Yayang, God bless you too! 🙂
Ramadan Mubarak Christa! I also miss all the gatherings I used to do with friends (even though I don’t do fasting), so I can imagine it must be hard for you. Glad R can have day off for Eid though 🙂
Thank you Dixie! Yes I’m excited to spend our first Eid together 🙂
Ramadan Mubarak to you too! 🙂
Semoga lancar terus ya Chris!! 😀 Memang suasananya berbeda sekali dari di Indo ya. Di sini pun juga everything is business as usual 🙂 .
Amin, makasih Ko! Untung aku bulan puasa pertama ini masih cenderung santai aktivitasnya. Jadi bisa belajar adaptasi dulu. Gak kebayang kalau baru pertama kali tapi udah langsung puasa sambil kerja, waaa tambah berat kayaknya, hehe.
Asyiiikk bikin tulisan seri Ramadan juga. Enak Christa, jadi tahu setiap tahunnya cerita apa yang terjadi di Ramadan yang berbeda. Jadi kalau dibaca lagi bisa bikin senyum2 sendiri. Semoga kita bisa dipertemukan dengan Ramadan2 selanjutnya dengan ibadah dan amalan yang lebih baik yaaa. Senang Christa kalau di sana banyak suadara dari R. Jadi lebaran kerasa lebaran ya karena kumpul keluarga besar. Selamat lebaran buat kalian. Sslamat kumpul keluarga dan makan2 enak
Iyaaa terinspirasi dari kamu Den 🙂 hehe. Amiiiin… doa yang sama untukmu yaa Den! Selamat lebaran jugaa untuk kamu sekeluarga. Lebaran kali ini walau belum bisa mudik tapi semoga tetap spesial yaaa 🙂
Selamat menjalankan sisa ibadah puasa and selamat Idul Fitri juga buat Christa dan R 🙂
Terima kasih Inong, selamat Idul Fitri untuk kamu juga yaa 🙂
Christa, you’ve been American citizen now?
I’m curious, how will it be the celebration after Ramadan in the US. I mean, is there any tradition of visiting the houses of muslim brothers and sisters, like Lebaran tradition in Indonesia?
Happy welcoming Idul Fitri!
Haha of course not, I didn’t say anything about that!
Uhm I can’t answer it now, but I will let you know after Lebaran has passed 🙂 Thank you Desfortin! Best wishes to you too!
Haha … that’s alright.
I guess you will write about it for the next post
Yes, will try to write it 🙂
Semangat Ta! Tinggal tiga hari lagi 🙂
Semangat! *lempar ketupat ke NY*
Happy Ramadhan. I can imagine how the situation is different there on Ramadhan. but just as long as the prayer and fasting you did is with good intentions and I think the true Ramadhan is there. How about the meal, was there any Indonesian restaurants that serve Ramadhan food like ketupat?
Thank youu. Happy Eid! 🙂
Hmmm there are several Indonesia restaurants here but they don’t have special Ramadhan food like ketupat. But I was lucky that I went to some Indonesian families during lebaran and ate lebaran food! Yay! hehe