The little things

Since it’s February the 14th and I miss my boyfriend we’re all feeling the love in the air, let’s talk about my long distance relationship.

Being in a long distance relationship for quite a while now, I have received a lot of questions from people in my surroundings. Particularly, “How the two of you manage?”

Of course being in a long distance relationship have a lot of pros and cons. I’m sure there are a lot of writings about that already. So in this post I will share to you, how do we manage to survive the distance all this time!

Shoes
May our path will always be showered with pretty little things despite the hurdles that may come! ๐Ÿ™‚

 

The key for me is to appreciate the little things. Like how we have nicknames for each other. The nicknames somehow make us feel closer, give a more personal touch to the relationship.

Then there’s also the constant Facetime-ing. We facetime every day, when I woke up (he’s off work), during my lunch time (he’s going to bed), when he wokes up (I’m resting at home, before I go to bed) and repeat. It does not have to be long, sometimes only a 5 minute call just to tell each other a bit of story of our day. Or even just to say hello. It does not always have to be video call (depending on the internet connection or the situation), an audio call works fine too. When it’s weekend or the holidays, we try to squeeze at least an hour to have a longer conversation and talk about many things.

We also, try to introduce each other to the people in our lives. Even if, let’s say, I haven’t met his bestfriend, but at least we’ve talked on the phone and he knows who I am… vice versa. That way we won’t feel left out.

We try our best to express our love towards each other despite the distance. He does it by giving me surprises. I try, too, but somehow he always caught me off guard! Hehehe. Like what happened last night, during our facetime session…

The boyfriend: I have a confession!
Me: Okay continue…
The boyfriend: I meant to give you a surprise for Valentine’s day but I failed.. *frown*
Me: *blushing* Oh what is it? Tell me tell me!
The boyfriend: So I wanted to send you heart shaped Pizza and from Google I found a Pizza place that can do that.. Pizza Morzano?
Me: Marzano? That’s next to my office! *smiling*
The boyfriend: Exactly! But then when I called them they don’t accept credit cash payment, cash only. I meant to send it for your lunch time today but… I’m sorry..

Really, when he said he has a confession I thought he’s going to say something bad! Hahaha. Now I feel bad because I did not prepare anything for him. Oops. Hehe.

Anyway those kind of little things really help in making the distance feels shorter, don’t it? I’m enjoying our days so much that I did not realise that it’s less than two months until we meet again! Yayyyy ๐Ÿ˜€

Happy Valentine’s day for all of you! I hope you’re having a wonderful day. It is indeed just like any other day for me but of course it’s no harm to spread some love ๐Ÿ™‚

Our First Date

Do you remember your first date with your partner? My first date with the boyfriend actually happened after we were officially together… approximately 2 years after we first knew each other. Hahaha that’s a very long road for a first date, right?! :p

Well, by now you probably have known that we are a LDR couple. He’s in the US, I’m in Indonesia. It took us 2 years knowing each other until we finally met, thus explain the long road for a first date.

Looking at our situation, it’s actually a bit hard to have a first date. I thought we would never have the kind of normal “first date” (you know, the one where the boy picks up the girl, went for dinner and movies and such), so I specifically asked for a “date” while I was in the US. Hahaha. Yep, me and my fairy tales. :p

However, due to our packed schedule while I was there, we could only have the first date at the end of my stay, 3 days before my departure to Indonesia to be exact. So, does that still count as first date? Haha to me it does, well at least, let’s just call it our first official date night.

We were in Solvang, a small tourist city in Santa Barbara County – California as a part of our road trip. We spent the day wandering aroundย  the lovely townย  and found a restaurant which we thought interesting. It’s called Bit O’Denmark and it has a very classic European style. We thought it’s perfect for our “romantic dinner/first date” so we decided to come back later during the night.

Image from: www.tripadvisor.com
Image from: http://www.tripadvisor.com

Luckily, I just bought a dress and shoes in Target several days before and I had it on my weekender bag. My boyfriend had a decent sweater with him so he decided to wear that. That solved our apparel problem! Hehe. Since Solvang is a small town and we were based on the main road, we could easily walk to the restaurant. When we got there, the atmosphere was reaaallly romantic. It was quiet, the lights were dimmed, and there were not many people there, only us and 2 other couples. We ordered our meal and were chatting while waiting for our food when a group of men walked in.

Image from: www.tripadvisor.com
Image from: http://www.tripadvisor.com

Unlike us they were dressed casually. They were chatting loudly with language that we didn’t understand and went straight to the bar. Uhm, unfortunately the other guests have left when they walked in, so it was only us AND them. So we could hear their voice very clearly. Suddenly, they started to sing! Again, in a language which we didn’t understand. It’s like a march or something.

A “candid” picture of the group of men when they were singing.. :)))

We couldn’t help but looked at each other and laughed silently, because, come on, what a surprising “add-on” to our supposedly romantic first date! Hahahahaha. The singing went on for several minutes and when they finished, they had a toast then started to drink their beers. Not long after they finished drinking, they left and we had the restaurant to our own again ๐Ÿ™‚

So… that’s how our “official first date” went. Funny, but truly memorable, hahaha. Care to share yours?

Oh btw it’s 81 days until I get to see my boyfriend again! I shouldn’t be counting days but can’t help it.. Yaaayyyy! ๐Ÿ˜€

Counting Days!

I’m super excited to tell you that it’s 93 more days until I’m scheduled to meet my boyfriend! Yaaayyyy! Hehe pardon the excitement because the last time I saw him was ages ago, back in September 2013. ๐Ÿ˜

Anyway, I actually have bought the plane ticket and got my leave at work approved since last year but I haven’t really thought about it and haven’t really started to count days because well.. it was still 2014. But since 2015 is here now, no harm in counting days, right? ๐Ÿ˜‰

In addition to meeting the boyfriend and his family, I’m also super excited because I’ll be going to Coachella festival during my trip to California!!! Yes you read it right, Coachella!!! Me, my boyfriend and a group of his friends will be going to weekend two… It has been in my bucket list + my 30 before 30 list to attend (and camp) in a music festival and hopefully everything will be so smooth that I’d get to cross that off my list this April. If you’re interested, here’s a line up poster of the event which was announced yesterday:

Coachella 2015
Image from: http://www.coachella.com/poster-iframe/

What do you think about the line up? To me, other names on the poster suddenly become not so important anymore once I read “Belle and Sebastian” on it. They are my favorite band everr and I thought I lost the chance of watching them live once I missed their show when I was in England back in 2010. Who would’ve thought that they’ll be playing Coachella right at the very year I’m going?! SUPER HAPPY! But anyway, I’d also love to see other performances, plus, we’ll be camping!! Wooohooo! super excited. The boyfriend, on the other hand, really wished for Kendrick Lamar (his current favorite rapper) to play Coachella but I guess he’s not lucky yet. Hehe, next time ๐Ÿ˜‰

Anyway, I can’t wait for the weekend to come and start planning my trip. Browsing for things to do, planning my Coachella trip.. ๐Ÿ˜€ meanwhile, I’ve been playing Coachella’s Official Spotify Playlist at work and during my commute. Just have to make myself familiarised with the artists!

To end this post, here’s a song by Belle and Sebastian called Funny Little Frog. Have a listen and let me know if you liked it as much as I do! ๐Ÿ™‚

Surprise!!!

Being in a long distance relationship requires extra efforts, one can’t deny. To me, one of the extra efforts I do is to give surprises for the boyfriend. Though it requires effort, I don’t find it a hassle though – simply because I am a planner! I love to plan, organise and arrange, and I also find happiness in knowing that the things I planned make other people happy.

With the help of internet, planning a surprise is even easier! I could easily google a local bakery in my boyfriend’s town which can do online order. I made the order and the payment online, and ta-da! a surprise “thinking of you” brownies was delivered to his office. Then there’s also birthday surprise. All were done with the help of internet, no hassle at all.

Anyway… yesterday I got a surprise! Yaaayyyyy! My boyfriend and his cousins successfully surprised me. I was not expecting something like this coming from him, because you know, he’s a guy and guys don’t normally plan surprises (right? hehehe). But, in the spirit of my birthday month, he decided to send me a dozen of cupcakes with a little note “it’s 21 days to your birthday“. I MELT. Really.

Cupcakesss!
Cupcakesss!

But, unlike me, he did not have to rely on internet as much (haha lucky him!), as he got family who live here. And since I know almost all of his family already, it was even easier. He asked his cousins to help him.. buy the cupcakes, and deliver them to my office. So I was very much surprised when I found them at my office just before lunch time, bringing my cupcakes! Afterwards we had lunch in the nearby mall. And then I had to get back to work with a dozen cupcakes to be shared with my colleagues ๐Ÿ™‚

So that’s how I was made surprised. Now speaking of surprises, do you like surprises? any memorable surprise that you’d like to share? Looking forward to hear your stories!~

What are the keys to a successful LDR?

If you have been following my story, youโ€™d know that my current LDR is not my first (but hopefully my last, hehe ๐Ÿ™‚ ). Back in 2009, I was in a LDR and it lasted for around 1,5 years. Did distance kill it? Probably. But as I am now in a LDR again and am really hoping that this will succeed, I often got anxious and stressed out. Now and then I reflect to my previous relationship in hoping to find out what went wrong and make sure Iโ€™m not doing it again. I know it shouldn’t be done but sometimes I just can’t help it…

One example is about communication routine. I have to admit that me and my boyfriend have a very good routine – so despite the distance, I do feel that he is near. With the 14 hours Jakarta โ€“ Los Angeles time difference, my morning became his afternoon, and vice versa. That way, when I wake up in the morning he has finished his work and is on his leisure time, so we can have a bit of time to talk during my daily commute to work. When I got to the office, itโ€™s time for him to sleep and when he wakes up the next morning.. Itโ€™s night time for me so we are able to talk again before he goes to work and I go to bed. Before I lost my phone, we do it through facetime but at the moment text messaging would work (though I miss seeing his face! Haha).

But even with that routine, I often got stressed whenever we missed a schedule. Letโ€™s say something came up during my night time so when I finally have free time, heโ€™d be working already. There was a period of time that sort of schedule happened for several days.. and I got so stressed. Without me liking it, I remember how I did not have a good communication routine back in my previous LDR. We only managed to skype at least every two weeks and though we sent each other emails.. a lot of details were missing. That made me afraid that the relationship will fail again, just like the previous one.

Whenever I express my worry to the boyfriend, he would told me that I am thinking too much, and try to assure me that we are far better than this tiny issue. He reminded me that we have been talking for two years before we finally be in a relationship.. and while itโ€™s been a year since we started the relationship, we are still going strong and far from extinction.. hehehe.

Still I canโ€™t help to wonder.. what are the keys to a successful LDR? Intense communication? Trust? Faith? Perseverance? Commitment? Or simply.. when itโ€™s meant to be, it will happen. My boyfriend is with the commitment pack. He said he has expressed his commitment towards me and this relationship thus he thinks that distance is just a matter of a tiny obstacle which we will pass.

Me โ€“ on the other hand, ย am still trying to find out.. but the more I try to build the recipe, the more I somehow think that the recipe will be as simple as what I mentioned beforeโ€ฆ โ€œwhen itโ€™s meant to be, it will happenโ€. With that in mind, I am keeping my faith and going strong ๐Ÿ™‚

What about you, fellow LDR couples? What do you think are the keys to success?

The first year

Today is our 1st anniversary!

Me and my boyfriend started dating after knowing each other for two years. Knowing him has been a continuous process โ€“ Iโ€™m glad that our relationship keeps evolving and grows stronger with each passing days ๐Ÿ™‚ This past first year was exciting, though we did not see each other at all (our next meeting is scheduled for next Spring), we managed to maintain our communication very well. We had lots of arguments – never too serious, mostly over small things – and those arguments somehow helped to make our relationship stronger. I thought I knew him well already since we’ve known each other for a while before finally being in a relationship.. but no, there are still so many things that surprise me about him (and vice versa) now that we’re a couple! hahaha.

I know that we shouldn’t be counting days and years, but thereโ€™s no harm in celebrating the first, right? As a part of celebration, we decided to send each other cards โ€“ just a little something special. To our surprise, we ended up buying a similar card! I was so surprised when his card arrived, because it looks so similar to what I bought him.

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our anniversary cards ๐Ÿ™‚

See that picture? The left one was the card I bought and going to send to him.. while the right one was the one that he bought and has sent to me. I was on Skype with him when I opened the card and instantly laughing when I saw it. I immediately showed him the card I bought as well and made him laugh as well. What a coincidence! ๐Ÿ™‚

To sum up this first year, I would say (and we both agreed to this) that time flies really fast. I guess it’s true what they say.. time flies when you’re having fun and I can’t be more thankful to have such a wonderful guy to share it with!