Thank you FaceTime!

If you know me personally or have been reading my previous posts, you should know by now that I’m currently in a long distance relationship. HA. Distance.  Between California to Jakarta, this time. Waiiit.. this time? Yep, this is not my first time being in a relationship that involves distance. My previous relationship also involved distance, I was in the UK and he was in Jakarta. Then I went back home to Jakarta and he went to Sumatra. It lasted around one year. Did it end because of distance? I don’t know. But it was not meant to be.

Anyway.. I’m not going to compare the two relationships here.. but I just want to tell you, it is very easy to be in a long distance relationship nowadays! Yep, you read it right – easy. Now let me tell you my story..

Back in 2010, I had to rely on Blackberry Messenger to communicate. Skype was almost a luxury – given the fact that I only had a Blackberry phone which did not support video calls, and time difference made us hard to find convenient time for both of us to be able to be in front of the computer (not to mention Indonesia’s rather slow internet speed!). Once every week would be a blessing, a ‘quality’ call which lasted more than 30 minutes would be a jackpot!
Of course of course, I have to be fair. Good ol’ Blackberry phone allowed me to send and receive pictures, voice notes, and emails. That’s something.

Now, I’ve been talking to R for almost three years now. We both used Blackberry phone during the first 1,5 years and during that time we also had a couple of times of Skype calls, but after we both changed our phones to iPhone.. boy communicating was easy breezy! Like Blackberry, iPhone has an instant messaging feature, iMessage, which allows you to send text, voice notes, and pictures. But then there’s FaceTime. Our life saviour! Even before officially being in a relationship, we would spend at least an hour every day talking through FaceTime. The 14-15 hours time difference did not seem to be a problem, nor that it is a problem now. His morning is my night, so normally we talk before I go to bed/he goes to work and while my morning is his afternoon, we talk on my way to the office/on his way home from work.

With FaceTime, me and R could talk and see each other without have to spend time in front of the computer. We can do it whenever, wherever. Even with the new iOs 7 launched late last year, FaceTime now has Audio version, which is like a regular phone call, without the video. Makes it even easier! If previously I had to (at least) find a quiet place and decent spot so we could FaceTime, nowadays I could just use Audio FaceTime when it’s not convenient for either of us to use video. YAY!

I know being in a long distance relationship is not the ideal situation.. but if you have no other choice, might as well work your best to make the relationship work, right? Let me tell you, with the help of FaceTime, I have less things to worry about. Now why don’t I use Skype? or other messaging platforms? Simply because we both happen to use iPhone and somehow FaceTime’s connection is more stable than Skype, or other platforms’.

To end my story, here’s a snapshot of my latest #thankyoufacetime moment. It was taken last Sunday night Jakarta time (Morning in California), and we were talking before R decided to play basketball. He then decided to “take” me with him because the park was empty and he missed me  we still wanted to talk –  at first he was just sitting in the bench and we were talking, when suddenly his phone went off and he had to charge it. Lucky the park has an electrical socket put conveniently, so he could place his phone, charge it, while let me watch him shoot some balls 🙂

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The one where I watched him play basketball!

Though it was only for a while, seeing him playing basketball made me so happy! I know there are a lot of moments that I had to miss because of distance, but I finally got the chance to see him doing one of the things that he loves. I guess that was one of the things that made our long distance relationship easier. Just like what’s written in Apple’s website, FaceTime really made me feel that I was there in person, even though I was not. So thank you, FaceTime! 😀

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Ticket for one, please.

Have you ever been to the movies by yourself? I have, and I like it.

I still remember the first movie that I watched by myself- Babel, back in 2006 – did it because I had to kill time.  It became a routine for a while, but then I had a boyfriend, and I never went to the movies by myself anymore, because it was always part of our dating activities.

But when I was in the UK, I came back to my old routine. The first movie that I watched by myself in the UK was Michael Jackson’s This is it. While watching it, I immediately noticed the cultural difference between Indonesia and the UK in terms of going to the movies. In Indonesia, you barely see people going to the movies alone. In the UK, it’s a normal thing to do!

Now, being back home, as much as I enjoy going to the movies with company, I always try to spare some me – time and watch movies by myself. I found it relaxing, because I can totally focus on the movie, and enjoying the movie experience. Going to the movies by myself also give me the freedom to choose whatever movies I want to watch. You know how sometimes we’d have to argue with our friends/partner/family over choosing a movie to watch? Sometimes I don’t want to be bothered with that – sometimes I just want to watch a movie, any kind of movie, regardless if it involves a shiny vampire, crazy killer, or mean girls.

Of course, being back home, I have to face people’s shocked expression whenever I told them that I watched that brilliant Oscar nominee movie over the weekend, alone. When I was still single after my previous relationship, some would sympathetically offer their company – thought it’s because I didn’t have a boyfriend to go to the movies with! But still, I’m now in a relationship (a long distance one…), and some would (again) sympathetically offer their company, while jokingly telling me to tell R to come home soon so that I can have someone to go to the movies with!

Anyway… Yesterday I went to the movies alone again, but it was special. A milestone was made, that is, I watch thriller movie BY MYSELF! Yeaaayy me! Well this is something that I haven’t disclosed yet.. I am afraid to watch movies that involve blood, graves, death, and anything in between.

But yesterday, I went to see KILLERS movie, an Indonesian movie produced by the Mo Brothers. They produced “Rumah Dara” before, I watched it with friends and I remember closing my eyes most of the movie. That’s not the case yesterday. I watched Killers by myself (I chose the “safe” seat, not the one in the corner), and I successfully faced my fear! Wooohooo! You should go and see it! I won’t tell spoilers, all I got to say that it’s worth to watch. Now, will you watch it by yourself like I did? 🙂

That moment.

That moment in a meeting with your bosses and the sales director asked: “did u learn this in university?”
I answered “no, i studied advertising.” Which is completely different than my current role.. And got him surprised.

That moment when commercial used to mean advertising to me, now it’s all about profit&loss, margins, and revenue.

While I’m enjoying this current role I am doing every day at work, I do hope that I can go back to what I was supposed to be doing – connecting brands to people and society.

Hopefully soon.

2014’s Project Bridesmaid #1

Last year, I was bridesmaid to 5 brides. This year, as far as I am aware of, I’m going to be bridesmaid to 4, and I’m going to document it in “2014’s Bridesmaid Project”.. hehehe. Last Sunday was Rissa and Yoni’s wedding.  Rissa is one of my best friends from the office and Yoni is her high school lover. As one of the bridesmaids, I went to both the ceremony and reception.

The wedding ceremony was held in the morning, following Islamic principles. They did not use a lot of cultural activities afterwards though, it was just sungkeman (asking for the parents’ blessings), and suap – suapan ( I don’t even know how to describe this properly – basically the bride and groom eat together as a symbol of facing the new life – something like that). But afterwards they read their wedding vows together. That’s interesting because Indonesian weddings normally don’t have vow readings, and if they do, the bride and groom would read them separately. In Rissa and Yoni’s case, they discussed the vows together and agreed on it, then Yoni read it for both of them. Sweet. Here’s a snapshot :

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The groom reading their wedding vows
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Adhisty, Me, Amanda, Kenny – at the wedding ceremony

The wedding ceremony finished at around 9.30, leaving us with only 1,5 hours to get ready for the wedding reception. I was with Kenny, Adhisty and Amanda – all from the office too, we got ready together and got our hair done as well (Kudos to the hairstylist who got our hair done so quickly!). The other bridesmaids – Rissa’s friends from college and high school – were also busy getting ready in such short period of time. But afterwards we got to see Rissa and spent some time with her while she was getting ready. We had fun taking girly shots while chatting and laughing.

The reception was a typical Indonesian traditional wedding, grand and there were so many people! Too bad I did not spend a lot of time with Rissa and Yoni because they were busy greeting all the guests but I really enjoyed dancing to the music from the wedding singer… especially when they sang “What Makes You Beautiful” by One Direction in a jazzy way. WAIT, WHAT? Hahaha that was the first time I heard that song sang in a wedding and I can’t help but telling you, it was good and really enjoyable! :p I also enjoyed taking lots of pictures with my colleagues, chatted with my bosses who happen to be Expats and one of them actually told me stories of his wedding and how the wedding culture is in where he came from.

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Me, Adhisty and Kenny

 

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Some of the bridesmaids
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Bridesmaids with the bride and groom

I regret not staying longer in the reception – apparently Rissa expected to see us after the whole reception finished before they went on their honeymoon, but at least we got to spend some time with her before the reception started. But all in all, I wish Rissa and Yoni a – happily ever after, filled with love and God’s blessing –  marriage. Congrats, love birds! 🙂

A little flashback to 2013

Looking back, 2013 was.. exceptional.

As cliche as it may sounds, tt was one roller coaster ride full of ups and downs. According to my old blog, I started January 2013 not so good. I also started a project ( My 365×365 instagram project, in which I was supposed to post a portrait each day with a little story of that person), and failed to finish it. The instagram account is still up and running though, maybe one day I’ll finish that project.

Come February, my Mum got sick, went to the hospital and had Appendectomy. It was a tough time but we were very lucky to have support from our family and friends. March was when I went to Kuala Lumpur with Adhisty, my friend to attend Future Music Festival. We saw Bloc Party (!!!), Temper Trap, PSY, De La Soul, Naughty by Nature, and Rita Ora. We also got to meet my old friend from the UK – Daniel, and stayed in Mba Anda (my cousin)’s apartment, overall had a great weekend break.

In April  I got promoted, Anggun got married to Arbow –  I don’t really remember  May, I guess time flies with daily routine and activities. In June I went to Bali with Kartika, Ibnu, Poppa, Dino and Thia, my friends from Bournemouth and went beach hopping, so fun! After Bali comes Dian and Pandu’s wedding, and afterwards sending them off to their new life in London.

July was when opportunity knocked in and I decided to take it.. it was when I bought the ticket to the US.. with all the help that was so surreal and I couldn’t imagine before. July was also R’s birthday. A cake was delivered to his workshop, his present was previously sent, but there was a certain disappointment.. That disappointment led to doubt, which made August was a month full of doubt.

Come September, was when my trip to the US happened. So happy!! I’ll probably write more about this in separate posts 🙂

October and November were filled with grad school application. I was very busy, and struggled with work and the application process. Thank God I finally submitted my applications in 1st of December.. and got to enjoy my December.

So that’s it! a little flashback to 2013. Of all the things that happened, the ups and downs, I am thankful and feel so blessed. 🙂

Hello!

Hello, 2014.

It’s a funny feeling, writing a first post again. Well that because the last time I wrote a first post was back in 2005! hahaha time flies and here I am almost 9 years later,decided to give a fresh start to my blogging routine.

In this blog I’ll tell you stories about my daily life, my travels, what I’m eating/listening/reading/seeing, and wearing (??) hahaha not so much a fashion blogger, so I guess there won’t be much (if not any) fashion related posts here. I’ll try to post more pictures too, and most surely will try to have a lot of fun in the process!

Oh one more thing, I’d be happy to hear from you! please click this link for questions and feedback, or simply a Holla back 😉

More posts coming soon,

Christa