I like to call myself a hopeless romantic. Romantic, because I believe in happily ever after – knight in shining armor – eternal love and those sorts of thing. Hopeless, because as much as I’ve grown up watching hollywood romcom movies and reading Japanese romantic mangas, I always had to face the reality that none of my previous relationships involved that sort of romance – thus leaving me hopeless :p
Though deep down I still wish to – one day – have my own fairy tale romance, the bitter 27 years old me is forced to bury down that wish and face the reality that nowadays, relationship is good enough as long as you two don’t cheat to each other.. right?
But then I met R. This guy never fails to surprise me. He brought the old me back, the one who believes in lovey dovey romance. On my first day back to the office after my block leave last year, he sent me bouquet of flowers to my office (!!!), because I’ve once told him (way before we started dating!) that I was a bit jealous when seeing a colleague of mine got sent a bouquet of flowers on Valentine’s day. For my birthday he sang me a song, because he knows that it has been in my dream to be serenaded by my significant other.
I know we have our ups and downs, we do have our struggles and obstacles, but he understands that those lovey dovey things are important to me… and he’s willing to do that without me asking for it!
Then came this year’s Valentine’s day. It’s our first Valentine’s day together and to be honest I did not plan anything – obviously we can’t go out, and I sort of think that it’s just any other day. But then he surprised me again! Yesterday, a package from him arrived with Trader Joe’s Speculoos Cookie & Cocoa Swirl ….
… and a hand made artwork inside.
Artwork! Handmade! Words can’t even describe how happy I was when I opened the package. It really, really mean a lot to me that he’s willing to do the extra miles to make me happy, to make our relationship filled with sweets and joy, despite the obstacles and distance that we have to face.
So, Happy Valentine’s day, love. Although it seemed like any other day to me, but you made it so special, like you always make our every day special (even during our fights! …. errr not, but i still love you :p). I wish for many more happy and special days together, you and me.
If you know me personally or have been reading my previous posts, you should know by now that I’m currently in a long distance relationship. HA. Distance. Between California to Jakarta, this time. Waiiit.. this time? Yep, this is not my first time being in a relationship that involves distance. My previous relationship also involved distance, I was in the UK and he was in Jakarta. Then I went back home to Jakarta and he went to Sumatra. It lasted around one year. Did it end because of distance? I don’t know. But it was not meant to be.
Anyway.. I’m not going to compare the two relationships here.. but I just want to tell you, it is very easy to be in a long distance relationship nowadays! Yep, you read it right – easy. Now let me tell you my story..
Back in 2010, I had to rely on Blackberry Messenger to communicate. Skype was almost a luxury – given the fact that I only had a Blackberry phone which did not support video calls, and time difference made us hard to find convenient time for both of us to be able to be in front of the computer (not to mention Indonesia’s rather slow internet speed!). Once every week would be a blessing, a ‘quality’ call which lasted more than 30 minutes would be a jackpot!
Of course of course, I have to be fair. Good ol’ Blackberry phone allowed me to send and receive pictures, voice notes, and emails. That’s something.
Now, I’ve been talking to R for almost three years now. We both used Blackberry phone during the first 1,5 years and during that time we also had a couple of times of Skype calls, but after we both changed our phones to iPhone.. boy communicating was easy breezy! Like Blackberry, iPhone has an instant messaging feature, iMessage, which allows you to send text, voice notes, and pictures. But then there’s FaceTime. Our life saviour! Even before officially being in a relationship, we would spend at least an hour every day talking through FaceTime. The 14-15 hours time difference did not seem to be a problem, nor that it is a problem now. His morning is my night, so normally we talk before I go to bed/he goes to work and while my morning is his afternoon, we talk on my way to the office/on his way home from work.
With FaceTime, me and R could talk and see each other without have to spend time in front of the computer. We can do it whenever, wherever. Even with the new iOs 7 launched late last year, FaceTime now has Audio version, which is like a regular phone call, without the video. Makes it even easier! If previously I had to (at least) find a quiet place and decent spot so we could FaceTime, nowadays I could just use Audio FaceTime when it’s not convenient for either of us to use video. YAY!
I know being in a long distance relationship is not the ideal situation.. but if you have no other choice, might as well work your best to make the relationship work, right? Let me tell you, with the help of FaceTime, I have less things to worry about. Now why don’t I use Skype? or other messaging platforms? Simply because we both happen to use iPhone and somehow FaceTime’s connection is more stable than Skype, or other platforms’.
To end my story, here’s a snapshot of my latest #thankyoufacetime moment. It was taken last Sunday night Jakarta time (Morning in California), and we were talking before R decided to play basketball. He then decided to “take” me with him because the park was empty and he missed me we still wanted to talk – at first he was just sitting in the bench and we were talking, when suddenly his phone went off and he had to charge it. Lucky the park has an electrical socket put conveniently, so he could place his phone, charge it, while let me watch him shoot some balls 🙂
Though it was only for a while, seeing him playing basketball made me so happy! I know there are a lot of moments that I had to miss because of distance, but I finally got the chance to see him doing one of the things that he loves. I guess that was one of the things that made our long distance relationship easier. Just like what’s written in Apple’s website, FaceTime really made me feel that I was there in person, even though I was not. So thank you, FaceTime! 😀
Today I went to Kemang for lunch with my mum and little brother. Jakarta Food Truck was our first destination because lately I’ve been hearing a lot of reviews on this rather new food joint, located in Jl.Benda Raya, Kemang area. From what I’ve heard, they only open on weekends from around 10 – late night, so I thought it’s a good idea to have lunch there. But, when we reached there at 1.30PM, the place was so packed! My brother insisted to have lunch there, which was immediately followed by a big no from me and mum, we wanted a laid back lunch, not the one where we had to queue or even stand when eating. So I suggested to eat somewhere else, and go there later on for dessert… and that’s we did! We went back there again at around 3.30 PM.
When we got there the second time, the place was rather empty. Some people were there, but there were no queue at all. I heard that their specialties are their Ribs, Sloppy Joe, and Oreo Fritters, and we wanted to try them. BUT.. all of them were sold out! Boohoo. We tried to order other kinds of food but they were mostly sold out too.. and among the left overs, we ended up ordering Fries and Bangers, and Red Velvet Pancake.
Their menu described Fries and Bangers as “Sausage, Onions, and Fries”. That simple. The price was IDR 30K, which is acceptable for something as simple as that. I thought the food was going to be plain, just a mix of all those ingredients, stir fried. But to my surprise, it comes with some sort of house special sauce, it looks like brown sauce but it has a decent pepper taste, perfect to my liking. I could imagine eating a lot of food with that kind of sauce. YUMMMM~
Now their Red Velvet Pancake is another story. I was hoping to get an American style pancake (you know, blood red), with maybe, just maybe, some cheese dip? or cheese sauce? But then what served to me was those tiny rounds of PINKISH pancakes, with drops of PINK sauce and some powdered sugar. Definitely NOT what I expected, and tasted nothing like Red Velvet at all… hiks. To be completely fair, the taste of that pancake is not that bad, only it does not resembles Red Velvet at all. For something worth IDR 15K, it would have been better if it’s called PINK Pancake, or Pink lover pancake, or whatever pinky.
Anywayy… The place is a must visit, just because it gives you a different eating experience (not everyday Jakarta has an American style food truck.. right?), I regret not having the chance to taste their famous menu, so I’m going back there again to try their Oreo Fritters and Ribs.
Have you ever been to the movies by yourself? I have, and I like it.
I still remember the first movie that I watched by myself- Babel, back in 2006 – did it because I had to kill time. It became a routine for a while, but then I had a boyfriend, and I never went to the movies by myself anymore, because it was always part of our dating activities.
But when I was in the UK, I came back to my old routine. The first movie that I watched by myself in the UK was Michael Jackson’s This is it. While watching it, I immediately noticed the cultural difference between Indonesia and the UK in terms of going to the movies. In Indonesia, you barely see people going to the movies alone. In the UK, it’s a normal thing to do!
Now, being back home, as much as I enjoy going to the movies with company, I always try to spare some me – time and watch movies by myself. I found it relaxing, because I can totally focus on the movie, and enjoying the movie experience. Going to the movies by myself also give me the freedom to choose whatever movies I want to watch. You know how sometimes we’d have to argue with our friends/partner/family over choosing a movie to watch? Sometimes I don’t want to be bothered with that – sometimes I just want to watch a movie, any kind of movie, regardless if it involves a shiny vampire, crazy killer, or mean girls.
Of course, being back home, I have to face people’s shocked expression whenever I told them that I watched that brilliant Oscar nominee movie over the weekend, alone. When I was still single after my previous relationship, some would sympathetically offer their company – thought it’s because I didn’t have a boyfriend to go to the movies with! But still, I’m now in a relationship (a long distance one…), and some would (again) sympathetically offer their company, while jokingly telling me to tell R to come home soon so that I can have someone to go to the movies with!
Anyway… Yesterday I went to the movies alone again, but it was special. A milestone was made, that is, I watch thriller movie BY MYSELF! Yeaaayy me! Well this is something that I haven’t disclosed yet.. I am afraid to watch movies that involve blood, graves, death, and anything in between.
But yesterday, I went to see KILLERS movie, an Indonesian movie produced by the Mo Brothers. They produced “Rumah Dara” before, I watched it with friends and I remember closing my eyes most of the movie. That’s not the case yesterday. I watched Killers by myself (I chose the “safe” seat, not the one in the corner), and I successfully faced my fear! Wooohooo! You should go and see it! I won’t tell spoilers, all I got to say that it’s worth to watch. Now, will you watch it by yourself like I did? 🙂
Last year, a friend of mine introduced me to a track from Clean Bandit. They’re a British group, which according to their Wikipedia, falls under Deep House and Baroque Pop genre. While I don’t care much about genres and such (to me anything suits my ears do!), I fell in love with them instantly after hearing Dust Clears.
Here’s why :
1. The tune.
It has a very catchy, cheery tune, with a lot of unique sounds – a good combination of bass, some sort of piano, and violin too! Basically the kind of tune that will make you move your head left and right, hahaha.
With such cheery tune, you would expect to hear meaningless, repetitive lyrics – just like most top 40 songs nowadays. But no, Dust Clears actually has a very deep lyrics (at least to me!). It started with “Imagine if the life that you thought you shared wasn’t really there … ” and also this bit (!!) “Imagine if the friend that you thought you knew wasn’t really true … ” Those kind of lyrics, especially when listened near your period time can really make you have deep thinking, right? :O
Anyway, lately I came across their new single, “Rather Be” feat Jess Glyne. Another instant favorite! Have a listen first :
Don’t you agree that this one’s another hit? It was all over UK radio stations last month. Pretty sure that it’s big in clubs there, too… hahaha. Again, it has a marvelous combination of catchy tune and sweet lyrics. Who can resist this : “It’s easy being with you, sacred simplicity. As long as we’re together, there’s no place I rather be… “
So yeah, I’m currently listening to Clean Bandit, a lot! I think you should too 🙂
That moment in a meeting with your bosses and the sales director asked: “did u learn this in university?”
I answered “no, i studied advertising.” Which is completely different than my current role.. And got him surprised.
That moment when commercial used to mean advertising to me, now it’s all about profit&loss, margins, and revenue.
While I’m enjoying this current role I am doing every day at work, I do hope that I can go back to what I was supposed to be doing – connecting brands to people and society.