My 2018

Today’s December 31st and here I am sitting down comfortably at the house. I don’t have any plans for tonight’s New Years Eve but I will be spending it with family 🙂 I always miss my family in Indonesia more during the holiday season but I’m hopeful that we can be reunited soon!

I just decided that hope is my word for 2019. I am hopeful and holding on to hope. Things have not been as good as I wanted in 2018, but only today I got to be reminded of hope. There is really no reason for me not to be hopeful and keep my faith because all this time God has been so good to me and my family. Anyway, here are my 2018 in retrospect.

January – We had a car accident the second day I arrived in the US and we had to let go of our car 😦 so, we made our first big purchase as a family this month! There were also other firsts this month for me… I re-learned how to cook (I was able to cook during my UK days but it was pretty much a grad student survival cooking :P), learned to make my own latte and smoothies, and started to pay attention to skincare! I also went to Passion Pit concert which was great. Unfortunately, this was also the month where I lost my aunt due to her illness 😦 may she RIP.

February – This month was quite busy for us – we had our cousin visiting from Indonesia for their honeymoon, and at the same time we also had a mini staycation as a belated wedding gift from our family. This month was the month I started to get to know my neighbourhood better – I learned to navigate myself around and get used the public transportation system. February was the coldest month, but the family made it warmer.

March – I realised that I have started to gain weight since I moved here, so I started to exercise more regularly. I joined a local gym to take PoundFit classes and I loved it! However, I stopped going after a month because they change their class schedule and it does not fit mine :\ I should stop making excuses and go back to this routine next year. On the other hand, we went exploring Los Angeles whenever we got a chance, playing tourist in the big city. I went to museums, gardens, and the beach! I started to fall in love with the city ❤

April – This month started with a HAIM concert with R. I also became a member of the public library in my city and started to read regularly again. I started a Goodreads challenge – 12 books for 2018, knowing I might fail it like past years. But turns out I was wrong! Not only did I manage to finish it, but I also managed to read 22 books in total this year! YAY me! Perhaps I should write a “books of 2018” post sometime this week… hmmm.

May – One of my bridesmaids / best friend came to visit this month and we had so much fun together. I went to stay with her for a couple of nights and it was so refreshing to be able to get a girls getaway like the old days. Another thing that made this month special was Justin Timberlake’s concert! It was a dream come true since I have been a fan since his NSYNC days 😛 We also started the month of Ramadan this month and it was my first time fasting in the US.

June – My brother and sister in law along with aunts and cousins from R’s side came to visit for Eid, making my first Eid here in the US so merry and warm. I missed my family in Indonesia but I am thankful for new experiences this month. With the days that got warmer and longer, we also spent a lot of time at the beach which I had no complaints about. I guess this is one of the perks of living in Southern California!

July – It’s R’s birthday month and went on a couple mini trips. First, we went to Las Vegas for a weekend with our family, then we went to San Francisco to meet my grad school friend who was visiting from New Zealand! It was so good to reunite with her after 8+ years 🙂

August – Summer is officially here and I think I spent most of it at the beach… it’s really a privilege to live close to the beach! I also scored a last minute ticket to Sam Smith’s concert at Staples Centre for only $20. Woohoow! And…. followed by a Smashing Pumpkins’ concert the next day with R. I can say that summer was a blast and I have no complaints.

September – Fall was around the corner and this month I was disappointed for the first time. Despite the delayed good news, I managed to go to my first football game to watch Rams vs Cardinals. Football is a big thing here and although I still don’t understand the game, I enjoyed the atmosphere of watching a live game.

October – I became the coordinator of our friends’ wedding here. It was an Indonesian – American wedding because although both bride and groom are Indonesian, the wedding culture was a mix between both countries. Through this experience, I met new friends and also relive my love of coordinating and organizing things – something that I haven’t done since I am currently taking a break from the corporate world. Ooooh how I can’t wait to go back! 😉 On the downside, I caught a pretty bad cold and it made me very homesick at the same time. It took me a week to recover, can you imagine?!

November – It’s our anniversary month and it’s our first! Yay! how time flies when you are having fun 🙂 we went to Palm Springs and Joshua Tree National Park for our anniversary and we had a good time. I’ll surely post the story here sometime later in the new year. I also celebrated Thanksgiving for the first time with R and our cousins. It’s also the end of #ChristasFirstYear – a project I started on Instagram when I first arrived in the US. Unfortunately this month I also experienced several anxiety issues which I am currently dealing with.

December – My birthday month! Since I finished #ChristasFirstYear project, I took a little break from social media and also started to practice mindfulness more regularly. I found it helpful to tackle my anxiety issues and I started to have a better understanding and awareness of my feelings. I am yet to receive the good news that I have been waiting for, but I am patient and hopeful.

Thank you 2018, Hello 2019 🙂

So there goes my 2018. It has been an eventful year – full of firsts but it is also a challenging one. Adjusting to life in a new country, becoming a wife, dealing with uncertainty… but I am certain that with hardship comes ease and that I am so blessed. ❤

Happy New Year 2019 to you! May you have a blessed year ahead. Thanks for reading and see you in the new year 🙂

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365/365

If you have been following me on Instagram, you might have seen a project that I have been doing for the past year. Started when I arrive in the US a year ago, I put out a picture every day on Instagram with the hashtag #ChristasFirstYear. Well, picture no.365 is still on the draft because I wanted to take a break from Instagram for a bit (posting each day for a year turns out to be a little bit overwhelming), and I also noticed that I have been feeling quite a lot of emotions leading up to day 365! 

You see, I am the type of person who are so used to having plans, checklists, projects, and all that. Every year I like to reflect on my life’s adventures that year and I would expect to see some accomplishments – travel to new places, career related, relationship related, anything that can give me a sense of progression. Unfortunately, as I look back at the past year, at first I found it hard to see that I am progressing this year. 

It made me sad and affected my mood for a couple days, I even had a small breakdown during a video call with my mother and R. I had this urge of wanting to limit contact with my friends in Indonesia because I felt jealous to see how their life is progressing while I felt that mine is not. Poor R did not know what to do, and I did not know what he could do to make me feel better. It wasn’t until I heard my mother’s words that I really get it. 

Life is not always about plans, checklists, projects, progression, and all that. Sometimes life can put you on hold, letting you navigate through it in your current situation. The situation for me is that I am still waiting for my permanent residency, and the chance to finally settle as a resident here. It’s okay. It takes longer than I expected, but it’s okay. 

Come to think of it again, I am being unfair to myself if I think that my life hasn’t been progressing at all this year. The progress may be different than what I planned and projected. But once I was finally able to see the silver lining of my current situation, I can now see the kind of progress that I’ve been making this year. As a newlywed, I have been progressing to become a better partner for my husband. My mother always said that getting married is a lifetime process of learning and understanding, and I think we are moving in the right direction. As a new immigrant, I am progressing too! At least now I can navigate myself through this city that I’m living in and I can definitely take you around Los Angeles if you decided to visit me 😉 And as for myself in general, this year has taught me that I have more patience and strength that I can ever imagine. 

That, my friends, is how I believe my life is still progressing despite everything that is happening 🙂 Thanks for reading and wishing you happy holidays! It’s getting festive here and I hope it is in your place, too 🙂

Satu Tahun

Sudah hampir satu tahun saya menikah dengan R. Nggak berasa banget ya. Perasaan baru kemarin kami saya sibuk ngurusi acara pernikahan dan siap2 pindah. Eh nggak berasa, udah mau satu tahun aja usia pernikahan kami. Ya, satu tahun memang seakan tidak ada artinya dibanding pasangan2 lain yang sudah lebih senior. Tapi bagi saya cukup spesial, karena saya masih suka nggak percaya kalau kini kami telah menikah, apalagi setelah menjalani LDR bertahun – tahun. 

Waktu lagi first dance, setahun yang lalu

Kalau ngomongin pernikahan kami selama setahun ini dalam satu kata, rasanya saya akan pilih kata seru. Seru soalnya kami banyak mengalami dan menjalani kejadian2 yang menarik. Beberapa highlight nya akan saya ceritain disini. 

Yang pertama soal adaptasi. Semua orang bilang namanya nikah itu 180 derajat sama pacaran. Dari dulu saya udah kebayang, tapi namanya nikah setelah LDR itu lebih seru lagi, soalnya kami tadinya hanya pernah menghabiskan waktu bersama selama kurang dari 1 bulan selama 5 tahun kenal. Sisanya jarak jauh semua. Nah pas udah nikah, saya pindah, kami tinggal bersama, kami jadi hampir 24 jam bareng terus sampai bosan 😛 . Kami harus adaptasi terhadap banyak hal – beberapa hal sudah saya bahas di post ini, dan kami juga harus adaptasi terhadap hal – hal yang lebih “serius” misalnya cara mengatur keuangan, cara menjalani hidup, sampai cara komunikasi satu sama lain. Iya, semuanya udah dibahas sebelum nikah, tapi tetap aja begitu dijalani tetap kaget dan perlu adaptasi! 😀 

Terus yang kedua adalah soal momen2 pertama kali yang kami lalui bersama. Namanya juga tahun pertama, apalagi tadinya kan kami jauh2an, jadi banyakkk banget momen pertama yang kami lalui di tahun pertama pernikahan ini. Mulai dari pertama kali mengunjungi tempat baru, pertama kali road trip di Amerika, pertama kali naik pesawat domestik di Amerika, pertama kali beli barang2 untuk rumah tangga, pertama kali masak bareng, pertama kali sakit, pertama kali A B C…..  termasuk pertama kali berantem hebat! Hahahaha. Ya coba ngaku ada nggak yang di tahun pertama pernikahannya nggak berantem hebat? :))))))))

Pokoknya, menurut saya tahun pertama pernikahan itu seru. Seru karena kami akhirnya bisa bersama – sama setelah bertahun – tahun LDR, seru karena kami bisa menghadapi berbagai masalah bersama, dan juga seru membahas hal – hal dan mimpi – mimpi yang akan kami capai bersama di tahun2 berikutnya. Iya, seperti pasangan2 muda lainnya, kami punya banyak mimpi dan rencana. Semoga rencana2 kami di-ridhoi Tuhan dan dibukakan jalannya. Amiin. 

Untuk merayakan anniversary pertama ini, minggu depan kami akan liburan singkat. Nggak lama2, 1 malam aja, dan nggak jauh2, hanya 2 jam perjalanan ke national park dekat rumah. Nggak sabar, karena saya belum pernah kesana dan merasa udah lama nggak liburan 😛 nanti saya cerita2 lagi yaa pas pulang… 🙂 

Have a good weekend! 

Tempat Tinggal di Amerika

Jadi setelah saya nulis post yang ini tentang gaya hidup di Amerika, saya jadi punya beberapa ide tulisan tentang hidup disini yang ingin saya share di blog. Pas banget tau2 kemarin Rika ninggalin komen soal bedanya rumah di Finlandia (tempat dia tinggal) sama di Amerika. Jadilah saya mau ceritain soal tempat tinggal di Amerika hasil observasi selama saya disini hehehe.

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The Tales of a Newlywed

During our earlier days of marriage, I discovered a quirk that my husband has, that is, the way he makes our bed! I think he is obsessed with making the bed and at first, I found it hard to understand this particular behaviour of his. I mean it’s not like I never make the bed, but he wants the bed to be made in a particular way.

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My First Ramadan in The US

Wow, where did the time go? Without I even realized it, it’s already the last week of Ramadan. This Ramadan marks my first Ramadan after I got married and moved to the US. It means it’s also our first Ramadan together, R and I 🙂 I was inspired by Deny’s blog post about her Ramadan experience in The Netherlands so I decided to share my story too.

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