A Love Story

My mum and dad have quite a love story. They met on a holiday in Singapore. It was back in the 70s, they happened to be in a same tour group. My mum was with her aunt, I call her Oma M. Meanwhile, my dad was on a boys-trip with a group of friends. Being in a boys-trip, my dad and his friends were loud. They kept joking around, having fun by themselves. Not rude, but loud, so as my mum described them.

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How to Succeed a Long Distance Relationship (!)

I believe no one actually wants to be in a Long Distance Relationship (LDR).  Finding a perfect match in between today’s hustle and bustle is hard enough already, why would anyone go through the hassle of being separated with their match?

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Cheers to distance

It has been a while since I last shared stories about my long distance relationship. Well, after my trip to the US this year a lot has happened and it seems like time fly so fast, we did not even realise that we have passed our second anniversary last September! Yay us! 🙂

With everything that has been happening, we don’t really have much time to do the usual things that LDR couples do. We don’t do surprises, don’t write letters, don’t do couples’ activities anymore –  but still we talk everyday! At first I was afraid that our relationship has became dull and we are sinking… but then I realised, this is just another phase in our relationship! He has become my best friend, whom I can talk to about anything.

There are times when I miss having the boyfriend’s presence. A lot. There are times that I feel tired of being separated. But there are also times when I found myself giggling happily during our conversation as if it was our first date – even though it was in the middle of the night. I mean, if a guy can still make you giggle like a teenager after all these years, that must mean something, right?

Image from: http://twenty-something-sherbet.blogspot.co.id/2011/02/how-to-keep-those-long-distance.html
Image from: http://twenty-something-sherbet.blogspot.co.id/2011/02/how-to-keep-those-long-distance.html

So for now, cheers to distance. We know that it won’t be forever, so let’s enjoy it while it lasts, before we move on to our next chapters in life :’)

Three weeks with you

After almost two years of being separated, last April we had the chance to enjoy things that couples normally do.

We had coffee dates…

Oh – this one’s my favorite, but not yours, I reckon. Hehehe, I know you hate it when I forced you to drive around LA… only to crossed off the items from ‘best coffee shops in LA” list that I found on Instagram. Hahaha. I know you prefer that Vietnamese coffee shop near your house and I know that you can’t understand why I drink my latte without sugar, or why we had to pay ~$4 for a cuppa while you usually get your morning coffee half the price in your neighbourhood joint – you think they’re just as good. But, we had the coffee dates anyway. We talked and we enjoyed each other’s company.

Ice latte for two @Go Get Em Tiger LA

We did something very Asian…

Yes, we hung out at a boba place. It was a lovely afternoon, we just had a stroll in the park and had some time to kill before dinner. You said I had to try this boba place. Guess what is it called? Boba Time! Hehehe. It was good, and I enjoyed the K-Pop music playing in the background :p We then had Korean BBQ for dinner. Oh how I love that I can eat whatever when I’m with you. It’s good to share a love for food, but remember we need to maintain our health too 😉

Boba for two @Boba time LA

We had hipster water…

That’s what you said! :p But don’t you think this water is cute? hahaha. I remember that day dearly. We took the train from Union Station to Pasadena, playing tourists in your town. When we got to Pasadena, we walked around. Then I found a small shop with some stalls – one of which is The Pie Hole. We both admit that their pies were very tempting so we decided to sit down and had one for each of us. You had the salted chocolate something while I had the strawberry something pie (can’t remember the names! oops!). It’s nice to explore new things together, things that we can’t normally do because of the distance.

Pie for two @Piehole LA

We had burgers while watching NBA game…

After that Coachella weekend, we went to Las Vegas for a quick getaway. We went there in 2013, but there’s never a lack of reason to go back to Vegas, right? 😉 This time we wanted to try Shake Shack burger. Rumor has it their burgers are so good and that night we proved that it’s true. But not only the burgers that made it memorable, but the fact that you could not get your eyes off the big screen while we were there. So I protested. Things got a little bit heated up. But it was not a big deal, we reconciled quickly. I learned to tolerate your love for NBA just like you tolerate my love for finding instagram-able spots :p

Burger meal for two @shake shack Las Vegas

And that’s just some of the highlights of how we spent three weeks together. We had fun, we explored together. Sometimes we agree, sometimes not. But most importantly, what we have is real and we enjoyed every seconds of our time together. It’s unfortunate that we have to be separated again, but we’ll hang on… until the next time we meet again.

P.S I miss you 😉

Surprise!!!

Being in a long distance relationship requires extra efforts, one can’t deny. To me, one of the extra efforts I do is to give surprises for the boyfriend. Though it requires effort, I don’t find it a hassle though – simply because I am a planner! I love to plan, organise and arrange, and I also find happiness in knowing that the things I planned make other people happy.

With the help of internet, planning a surprise is even easier! I could easily google a local bakery in my boyfriend’s town which can do online order. I made the order and the payment online, and ta-da! a surprise “thinking of you” brownies was delivered to his office. Then there’s also birthday surprise. All were done with the help of internet, no hassle at all.

Anyway… yesterday I got a surprise! Yaaayyyyy! My boyfriend and his cousins successfully surprised me. I was not expecting something like this coming from him, because you know, he’s a guy and guys don’t normally plan surprises (right? hehehe). But, in the spirit of my birthday month, he decided to send me a dozen of cupcakes with a little note “it’s 21 days to your birthday“. I MELT. Really.

Cupcakesss!
Cupcakesss!

But, unlike me, he did not have to rely on internet as much (haha lucky him!), as he got family who live here. And since I know almost all of his family already, it was even easier. He asked his cousins to help him.. buy the cupcakes, and deliver them to my office. So I was very much surprised when I found them at my office just before lunch time, bringing my cupcakes! Afterwards we had lunch in the nearby mall. And then I had to get back to work with a dozen cupcakes to be shared with my colleagues 🙂

So that’s how I was made surprised. Now speaking of surprises, do you like surprises? any memorable surprise that you’d like to share? Looking forward to hear your stories!~

What are the keys to a successful LDR?

If you have been following my story, you’d know that my current LDR is not my first (but hopefully my last, hehe 🙂 ). Back in 2009, I was in a LDR and it lasted for around 1,5 years. Did distance kill it? Probably. But as I am now in a LDR again and am really hoping that this will succeed, I often got anxious and stressed out. Now and then I reflect to my previous relationship in hoping to find out what went wrong and make sure I’m not doing it again. I know it shouldn’t be done but sometimes I just can’t help it…

One example is about communication routine. I have to admit that me and my boyfriend have a very good routine – so despite the distance, I do feel that he is near. With the 14 hours Jakarta – Los Angeles time difference, my morning became his afternoon, and vice versa. That way, when I wake up in the morning he has finished his work and is on his leisure time, so we can have a bit of time to talk during my daily commute to work. When I got to the office, it’s time for him to sleep and when he wakes up the next morning.. It’s night time for me so we are able to talk again before he goes to work and I go to bed. Before I lost my phone, we do it through facetime but at the moment text messaging would work (though I miss seeing his face! Haha).

But even with that routine, I often got stressed whenever we missed a schedule. Let’s say something came up during my night time so when I finally have free time, he’d be working already. There was a period of time that sort of schedule happened for several days.. and I got so stressed. Without me liking it, I remember how I did not have a good communication routine back in my previous LDR. We only managed to skype at least every two weeks and though we sent each other emails.. a lot of details were missing. That made me afraid that the relationship will fail again, just like the previous one.

Whenever I express my worry to the boyfriend, he would told me that I am thinking too much, and try to assure me that we are far better than this tiny issue. He reminded me that we have been talking for two years before we finally be in a relationship.. and while it’s been a year since we started the relationship, we are still going strong and far from extinction.. hehehe.

Still I can’t help to wonder.. what are the keys to a successful LDR? Intense communication? Trust? Faith? Perseverance? Commitment? Or simply.. when it’s meant to be, it will happen. My boyfriend is with the commitment pack. He said he has expressed his commitment towards me and this relationship thus he thinks that distance is just a matter of a tiny obstacle which we will pass.

Me – on the other hand,  am still trying to find out.. but the more I try to build the recipe, the more I somehow think that the recipe will be as simple as what I mentioned before… “when it’s meant to be, it will happen”. With that in mind, I am keeping my faith and going strong 🙂

What about you, fellow LDR couples? What do you think are the keys to success?