The first year

Today is our 1st anniversary!

Me and my boyfriend started dating after knowing each other for two years. Knowing him has been a continuous process – I’m glad that our relationship keeps evolving and grows stronger with each passing days 🙂 This past first year was exciting, though we did not see each other at all (our next meeting is scheduled for next Spring), we managed to maintain our communication very well. We had lots of arguments – never too serious, mostly over small things – and those arguments somehow helped to make our relationship stronger. I thought I knew him well already since we’ve known each other for a while before finally being in a relationship.. but no, there are still so many things that surprise me about him (and vice versa) now that we’re a couple! hahaha.

I know that we shouldn’t be counting days and years, but there’s no harm in celebrating the first, right? As a part of celebration, we decided to send each other cards – just a little something special. To our surprise, we ended up buying a similar card! I was so surprised when his card arrived, because it looks so similar to what I bought him.

our anniversary cards 🙂

See that picture? The left one was the card I bought and going to send to him.. while the right one was the one that he bought and has sent to me. I was on Skype with him when I opened the card and instantly laughing when I saw it. I immediately showed him the card I bought as well and made him laugh as well. What a coincidence! 🙂

To sum up this first year, I would say (and we both agreed to this) that time flies really fast. I guess it’s true what they say.. time flies when you’re having fun and I can’t be more thankful to have such a wonderful guy to share it with!

That (failed) movie date

Last week me and R realised that it’s been three years since we first got introduced to each other. We are going to have our 1st anniversary as a couple next month and since we’re feeling festive already.. we decided to celebrate this so-called anniversary of knowing each other by having a (virtual) movie date! Wooohoo.

Sounds really fun, right? I mean, though we are a LDR couple, we never really do things that other LDR couples seem to do. We (only) facetime and send messages (a lot), and we’re happy with it. Of course, he once sent me a bouquet of flowers.. and Valentine’s day gift.. and sweet things in between. I did, too. But never a movie date, or other activities like written in this article.

So we figured it’s about time that we do those kind of activities, just to have fun. We made the plan since mid-week, agreed on a time (his Friday night/my Saturday morning), and even agreed on a movie! I requested to watch a romantic comedy movie and he agreed. We chose “Say Anything” – a romcom classic.  He was going to watch it in Netflix while I’m going to buy the DVD. I cleared my schedule and he did too, so everything seems to be settled, until …

His family decided to visit him during that agreed time! Well, we had nothing else to do except to cancel and postpone our date. I totally understand and was not mad at all. Instead the movie date, we did have our usual facetime session before he left for dinner with his family. I was not too disappointed because I believe family comes first and we can always have our movie date other time. It’s just.. funny how this was going to be the one thing that we prepared and planned so carefully other than our annual visit yet it did not happen as planned. Oh well 🙂

We haven’t really talked about when we’re going to finally do it, perhaps sometime during our anniversary week next month.. or maybe later. 🙂

This year’s Valentine’s day

I like to call myself a hopeless romantic. Romantic, because I believe in happily ever after – knight in shining armor – eternal love and those sorts of thing. Hopeless, because as much as I’ve grown up watching hollywood romcom movies and reading Japanese romantic mangas, I always had to face the reality that none of my previous relationships involved that sort of romance – thus leaving me hopeless :p

Though deep down I still wish to – one day – have my own fairy tale romance, the bitter 27 years old me is forced to bury down that wish and face the reality that nowadays, relationship is good enough as long as you two don’t cheat to each other.. right?

But then I met R. This guy never fails to surprise me. He brought the old me back, the one who believes in lovey dovey romance. On my first day back to the office after my block leave last year, he sent me bouquet of flowers to my office (!!!), because I’ve once told him (way before we started dating!) that I was a bit jealous when seeing a colleague of mine got sent a bouquet of flowers on Valentine’s day. For my birthday he sang me a song, because he knows that it has been in my dream to be serenaded by my significant other.

I know we have our ups and downs, we do have our struggles and obstacles, but he understands that those lovey dovey things are important to me… and he’s willing to do that without me asking for it!

Then came this year’s Valentine’s day. It’s our first Valentine’s day together and to be honest I did not plan anything – obviously we can’t go out, and I sort of think that it’s just any other day. But then he surprised me again! Yesterday, a package from him arrived with Trader Joe’s Speculoos Cookie & Cocoa Swirl ….

Something sweet..

… and a hand made artwork inside.

Something handmade – he calls it “Coraline Heart”

Artwork! Handmade! Words can’t even describe how happy I was when I opened the package. It really, really mean a lot to me that he’s willing to do the extra miles to make me happy, to make our relationship filled with sweets and joy, despite the obstacles and distance that we have to face.

So, Happy Valentine’s day, love. Although it seemed like any other day to me, but you made it so special, like you always make our every day special (even during our fights! …. errr not, but i still love you :p).  I wish for many more happy and special days together, you and me.

Thank you FaceTime!

If you know me personally or have been reading my previous posts, you should know by now that I’m currently in a long distance relationship. HA. Distance.  Between California to Jakarta, this time. Waiiit.. this time? Yep, this is not my first time being in a relationship that involves distance. My previous relationship also involved distance, I was in the UK and he was in Jakarta. Then I went back home to Jakarta and he went to Sumatra. It lasted around one year. Did it end because of distance? I don’t know. But it was not meant to be.

Anyway.. I’m not going to compare the two relationships here.. but I just want to tell you, it is very easy to be in a long distance relationship nowadays! Yep, you read it right – easy. Now let me tell you my story..

Back in 2010, I had to rely on Blackberry Messenger to communicate. Skype was almost a luxury – given the fact that I only had a Blackberry phone which did not support video calls, and time difference made us hard to find convenient time for both of us to be able to be in front of the computer (not to mention Indonesia’s rather slow internet speed!). Once every week would be a blessing, a ‘quality’ call which lasted more than 30 minutes would be a jackpot!
Of course of course, I have to be fair. Good ol’ Blackberry phone allowed me to send and receive pictures, voice notes, and emails. That’s something.

Now, I’ve been talking to R for almost three years now. We both used Blackberry phone during the first 1,5 years and during that time we also had a couple of times of Skype calls, but after we both changed our phones to iPhone.. boy communicating was easy breezy! Like Blackberry, iPhone has an instant messaging feature, iMessage, which allows you to send text, voice notes, and pictures. But then there’s FaceTime. Our life saviour! Even before officially being in a relationship, we would spend at least an hour every day talking through FaceTime. The 14-15 hours time difference did not seem to be a problem, nor that it is a problem now. His morning is my night, so normally we talk before I go to bed/he goes to work and while my morning is his afternoon, we talk on my way to the office/on his way home from work.

With FaceTime, me and R could talk and see each other without have to spend time in front of the computer. We can do it whenever, wherever. Even with the new iOs 7 launched late last year, FaceTime now has Audio version, which is like a regular phone call, without the video. Makes it even easier! If previously I had to (at least) find a quiet place and decent spot so we could FaceTime, nowadays I could just use Audio FaceTime when it’s not convenient for either of us to use video. YAY!

I know being in a long distance relationship is not the ideal situation.. but if you have no other choice, might as well work your best to make the relationship work, right? Let me tell you, with the help of FaceTime, I have less things to worry about. Now why don’t I use Skype? or other messaging platforms? Simply because we both happen to use iPhone and somehow FaceTime’s connection is more stable than Skype, or other platforms’.

To end my story, here’s a snapshot of my latest #thankyoufacetime moment. It was taken last Sunday night Jakarta time (Morning in California), and we were talking before R decided to play basketball. He then decided to “take” me with him because the park was empty and he missed me  we still wanted to talk –  at first he was just sitting in the bench and we were talking, when suddenly his phone went off and he had to charge it. Lucky the park has an electrical socket put conveniently, so he could place his phone, charge it, while let me watch him shoot some balls 🙂

The one where I watched him play basketball!

Though it was only for a while, seeing him playing basketball made me so happy! I know there are a lot of moments that I had to miss because of distance, but I finally got the chance to see him doing one of the things that he loves. I guess that was one of the things that made our long distance relationship easier. Just like what’s written in Apple’s website, FaceTime really made me feel that I was there in person, even though I was not. So thank you, FaceTime! 😀